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If I can come back to love anyone can.  I say that because by the time I was 10 years old, I had experienced a lot of losses already. I was raised mostly by my father and as you can imagine that was difficult for a teenage girl.  Besides, he had lots of work to do to take care of me and my sister, the house, the lawn.....I did a lot of growing up on my own. 

This personal story of loss is a Come Back to Love triumph….I could have ended up in a pretty bad situation when I was a teenager but I didn’t because I found just enough love in my friends to keep me moving forward. And I found some other passions that I loved so much like singing and dancing. I also knew I needed to be here, to stay on the planet...I knew I had work to do! 

But I grew up believing that happiness, joy, deep connection and love were for other people.  Until one day it struck me that I could have that too.  My life started to change at that moment. I was 32 years old.

It's been 25 years since that "aha" moment and I've created a life filled with health and well-being (after years of chronic fatigue), an abundance of community, friends, and purposeful amazing work (after only barely surviving financially for years), and last but not nearly least, I have love in my life.

I have so much to share with the world about how to come back to love after loss.

You're here because you want more love in your life and yet it's not easy, is it?  To love and be loved (especially after loss, trauma, and heartbreak) isn't easy.  

And yet I'm here to tell you that I'm living proof that it's ENTIRELY POSSIBLE! 

I hold sacred space for people to gather and heal together. I invite curiosity, acceptance, a deep spiritual practice, and teach how to bestow love upon yourself and each other. I provide an open-hearted and safe place to explore intimacy, healing, and deep connection. 

I look forward to walking on this path with you.  

With love and great respect,




I am a trauma-informed, Internal Family Systems psychotherapist turned¬†Love and Intimacy Coach with over 25 years experience working with groups and 1-1.¬† I am a global transformational workshop leader who has worked with over 2000 people.¬† Heal Your Heart¬†¬ģ¬†is my flagship program that finally gets to the root of how change happens so that singles¬†can FINALLY heal the past and create healthy relationships going¬†forward.¬†¬†

I shepherd all I work with to return to a loving connection with themselves after loss, heartbreak, and trauma.

In my programs and with my guidance you will heal your heart in a way that you haven't been able to before.¬† You've likely tried everything but you haven't yet tried the Come Back To Love¬ģ Gates Approach.

I have been featured as an expert in the Boston Globe, Redbook Magazine, Digital Romance Inc, Dating Over 40, Sex for Her Health, and Happiness. 


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